Aug 10, 2008

Have you go A Romantic Yearning

Does everything feel like it would be so much more fun with him there beside you? Do you frequently find yourself daydreaming about every little cute thing he does? Do you still get excited when you know you’re going to be seeing your partner soon? paania paki

Similar to the first stage, romantic love is also all about intense yearning. This when nothing and no one seems to exist, except the object of your affection. There is a physical and mental craving associated with early passionate love that almost feels like a chemical imbalance. In fact, there really is a chemical surge. Dopamine and other natural stimulants in your body elevate, causing you to lose your appetite and make it hard to sleep. These hormones also make you focus all of your attention on that one person, which is why you may think obsessively about him. So when people say they’re crazy in love, they ain’t kidding.

After a while though, as with sexual attraction, every couple falls back down to earth. In addition to losing some of that I’m so happy to see you gushiness you may start to feel like you’ve slipped into a routine. The solution, start dating again. When you were dating, you may have gone on interesting excursions or tried out new cuisines, which boosted your feel good chemicals and made the relationship more fun and exciting. The point being, get off the couch and start adventuring together.

Not sure where to start. Agree to have a date night or day once a week, where you do something neither of you has tried. Also, don’t wait for an anniversary to do something special. Plan a romantic dinner out at least once a month, complete with a relaxing post date bath for two. You may even want to spend a couple of days apart beforehand to increase the anticipation of seeing each other.

Long-term connection. Do you feel happier and more relaxed than you’ve been with anyone else? Do you make sure you phone each other first with big news whether it is good or bad? Would you give up a night of fun with your girlfriends to cheer him up after a very bad day?

It’s pretty common to experience the first two stages at dating level. All those feel good chemicals are coursing through your body, screaming, I want that man now. But over time the initial high wear off and feelings of real attachment begin. Once again, your brain produces chemicals, in this case, oxytocin and vasopressin, along with endorphins, which fuel a different kind of love.

These chemicals make you feel calm and less anxious. That’s why couples that have been together for a while fall into a comfort zone, where they feel a sense of commitment and closeness. People who are happiest in a serious relationship describe themselves as feeling like close friends. A strong couple will act as a team, working toward the same goals.
Spend enough time with your boyfriend and you’ll probably bond naturally, but you need to maintain a sense of us. So get into the habit of sharing your frustrations and dreams. Communication is key to strengthening your connection.

Still, a twosome won’t thrive on all talk and no actin. List fun things you can do together. You may want to include each other in activities that are important to you as individuals. So, if he’s a footy fan, tag along to a few games, or if you‘re into running, invite him for a run one morning. You’re opening up your private life to your partner, which is essential to a committed relationship.



Affectionate, nonsexual gestures can also have a powerful partnering effect. Regularly holding hands, sitting close and cuddling help sustain the oxytocin and vasopressin, which create feeling of attachment with your mate. Once you have that couple connection combined with a great sex life and romantic attitude, you‘ve achieved long lasting love.

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